One of the scariest things for a parent is to have his child admitted to a hospital. When that happens right after the baby is born it’s ten times scarier. No matter the reason, when you see your child at the NICU with all those monitors connected to him and you can’t do anything to help you feel devastated. What can you do then, as a dad to make the situation less stressful?
- First of all give your child’s mom lots of support. It doesn’t matter if you’re married to her or not. This is the time when you leave all the differences aside and focus on helping each other through this tough moment.
- Secondly, spend a lot of time with your baby. If the mom had a natural birth she will be able to be there too but if she had a c-section it might take a couple of days until she’s able to be wheeled to the NICU to spend time with her baby. So it’s your responsibility to be right next the little one to watch him/her, touch (if allowed), and talk about positive things. Try not to cry because your baby might pick up on that sad energy. If you feel like crying take a walk, breathe and wait until you calm down to come back to the NICU.
Whatever happens in the end you, as a dad, need to do your part. Stay positive until the very end. Listen to the doctors, ask questions and expect honest answers. If you don’t understand a doctors answer ask a direct question. If you’re a spiritual person you can and should pray. It’s not necessarily about the religious idea behind it but more about the positive energy and the hope boost that a prayer can bring.
If you’ve been through this situation feel free to share if you feel like it. If you’re aren’t a dad yet just relax for now. I hope you don’t have to go through anything like this. Just be ready to put your Super Dad pants on and take responsibility.